How to speak your husband’s Love Language?

If you haven’t read The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman you really should!

I read this book for the first time several years ago after winning it at a Valentine Banquet. We won the Newlywed Game! We had been married about nine years and were very happy but I was always looking for ways to be a better wife and mother. 

I read the book and took the quiz at the back for myself. Then I answered the questions the way I thought my husband would just to see if I was right….I was sooo WRONG! After having my husband take the quiz I went back and compared my answers for him with his actual answers. I realized I answered in ways I was actually showing him love which was not his #1 Love Language. 

So, now that I knew what his Love Language was it was time to change the way I was speaking Love to him. This may not be as easy as it sounds…especially if you are a routine person and are “used” to doing things a certain way. For example I was doing Acts of Service when I should have been speaking Words of Affirmation. That doesn’t mean I quit doing the Acts of Service but I was more intentional in telling him how much I appreciated him and how proud I was of his accomplishments.